Fresh starts.

This is quite an old one sitting in my drafts.. I’ll post it anyway..

Often I try to prevent the whether from putting a damper on my mood but that can be quite difficult when you’re trying to get things done & you’re continuously getting wet. London weather has serious bipolar issues !

I had to start of with a miniature rant because it helps to let off some steam and frustration. 🙂
I visited a friend who recently gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. And looking at him put everything into full perspective. Seeing him made me think about all the upcoming events her has to endure in his life. Whether it was his first hair cut, his first football practice and first punishment. It made me look at him as a painting that has yet to be created. Quite similar to having a brand new day; a fresh 24 hours to look forward to. Making sure that whatever took place in your life today shouldn’t alter the way that you view your tomorrow.

What occurred today doesn’t matter because tomorrow is a new slate that’s been created for you and it’s up to you to decide how that slate is going to turn out at the end of your day. I heard once that however you start your day is the way that your day will continue. To tell you the truth I’ve had some pretty rubbish starts in the morning but during the day I find myself re-evaluating what can be done differently and I guess you can say my day pans out a lot better.

Oh yeah before I forget. It’s important to give thanks for the things in your life, that’s a huge factor. Being thankful and even counting the things you’re grateful about can honestly make your day a hell of a lot better. Just because you start to recognise that you could be in a completely different circumstance and just the very fact that you’re alive with two eyes is something to be be grateful for.

 

 

– Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.. Melody Beattie

…Untitled for the minute…

At this point I actually have no idea hat to do with myself.. My boyfriend sent me this picture the other day prior to a conversation that we had: imgfunny

 

This picture literally depicts my life right about now …

My life revolves around

  • Assignments
  • My lovely boyfriend
  • Evening Spanish classes
  • Going back and forth to London to see my family and work
  • Friends
  • Blogging
  • Classes
  • Sleep..(or the lack of)
  • The library
  • Eating

And it got me thinking.. I really want to have great grades and it would be absolutely PERFECT if I came out of university with a 1st but trying to juggle everything is a living nightmare. I want to be a ‘typical’ university student. True to the fact that I took a gap year and all I did was work and basically been on my own without having to constantly go out with my friends and try and space my time out in difference sections. I don’t think I can be a ‘typical ‘ uni student..

TYPICAL USUALLY INCLUDES…

  • Going to parties every week
  • Skipping lessons
  • Being up past 3.. ( I did that once and I regretted it the next few days)
  • Not being sane 24/7 because I’m too intoxicated from a weeks worth of smoking and drinking …smoking and drinking.. the rest is history)

And last but not least…

  • Being up in the corridors of our student accommodation at 5 in the morning.. Just for the fun of it

Honestly.. I really thought my life at university would literally be a pick and choose scenario where I could do what I want and have control over my time as I’ve done so before. But honestly, its really difficult..

 

My life revolves around

  • Assignments
  • My lovely boyfriend
  • Evening Spanish classes
  • Going back and forth to London to see my family and work
  • Friends
  • Classes
  • Sleep..(or the lack of)
  • The library
  • Going to the gym (BODY GOALS 2K17)
  • Eating

Trying to balance everything out is… stressful to say the least..

I thought it was gonna be a breeze and this picture is literally what I thought was going to be my life for the next 3 years…worklife

Some way or another I will find the way to make a rota of some sort in order to allow myself time to have for all of these things and still have time for myself.. if that’s even possible !

“I always say, don’t make plans, make options.” – Jennifer Aniston

F O C U S O N Y O U B O O !

The Confusion Of The Happy

At a time like this.. that we call the digital age.. or even the microwave generation.. Where we just want everything handed to us (say the elderly folks) and we know not of a life without computers, phones, tablets, games ect, ect, ect. …

NOW with that being said we are blessed to be in a generation where we are able to see how our family/friends may be doing in another city or even on the other side of the Atlantic Ocean.. ( depending on where your’re living) This is both a blessing and a curse.

With the ability to have a view of what other people are doing thanks to social media platforms such as the glorious * Twitter, Insta, Facebook, Youtube*social-media-marketing-strategy

The list goes on and on.. We start to see and look at other people’s lives, particularly celebrities or people who just seem to have things going well for themselves and start to believe that’s the route to take in order to be satisfied in life.

All I can say is when we really start to just allow happiness to come to us nataurally or focus on finding a hobby or a task that makes you uncompromisingly happy instead of constantly chasing the idea of wanting to be happy with material goods.

*CLISHE’ ALERT*

Whatever glitters, isn’t always gold people..

Course its nice to see someone spending their hard on money on luxury items because obviously they’ve earned it..!!  But with that being said; let us not be fooled by what others have. We don’t know their story or their everyday struggles whilst carrying these Givenchy or Louis Vuitton purses.  Remember that…

–  your life is controlled by what you focus on ..

Tony Roberts

WHEN WILL IT END??!!

Honestly, right about now in disgusted, mortified and completely and utterly disappointed in some of the member of United States of America’s Police force who decide to murder innocent unarmed individuals. Due to the fact that in the past year a handful of black individuals have been mercilessly murdered by white police officers who’s job and purpose is to protect and serve. They’re getting there jobs roles twisted upside down and all over the place. I have read the oath that the police officers need to swear by, I am not 100% sure if it is the same in all 50 states; but I’m pretty sure that if within this oaf it said that it was lawfully okay and justifiable to gun down and murder an innocent individual then I could probably understand why people are ending up in body bags and 6ft deep. 

Unfortunately not.. So therefore, I remain ignorant and continue to not understand why there is such a lack in discipline, and humility within the police force. To the point where it’s just okay for some WHITE OFFICERS OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, are able to bully, beat, attack and completely diminish the black community of the USA. Now I don’t know if there is some type of hidden society/community that is looking to completely wipe out the black community, taking them down one by one, but at this rate, honestly IT HAS GOT TO STOP !!!

 I have never felt so passionate about a topic in forever, and to come across Facebook, where media of all sorts, spreads literally like a wild fire, to see another black man by the name of Alton Sterling be murdered in despicable cold blood, is unsettling.  

Now. I do not live in the USA, and with what seems to be happening over there it seems like a trip there may be off the cards as for as I’m concerned because honestly I could possibly be marked as anything that may not tickle a police officers fancy and decide to do something to me, I do not know. I’m probably being extreme, but this situation that is taking place as a regular occurrence in different states of America IS EXTREMELY EXTREME.

 If we aren’t still on the plantation fields, why is it that we’re still being gunned down as if we’re run away slaves who need to be returned back to our maker, or returned back to our master. Some of the individuals within the American police force are absolutely disgusting grimey pigs, and they need to be locked up and justice has to be served. How much blood needs to be shed on the pavements until the Police Force is put under scrutiny and control? It literally hurts me inside, I can barely even express the pain and distress that I feel within my body. This is happening way to often and it’s honestly getting way out of hand.

I often see the hash tag >> #BLM ~ ‘Black lives matter’ 

Yes black lives do matter, but there is more than one race than the black race that matters also and it’s the human race! So yes, black lives do matter, yes, white lives do matter, Asian lives matter, Hispanic lives matter… ALL LIVES MATTER !! It’s just for these knuckle head Police Officers to stop acting as though they’re the ones who are being victimised which causes them to do the most easiest thing for them in times of danger…. (”DANGER”)…and pull a trigger. This is disgusting ruthless behaviour.. And it needs to be sorted out before a war breaks out between the general public of America and the Police and all hell breaks lose !!

The Crab Mentality


This refers to a pot of crabs. And in this circumstance, individually, the crabs could easily escape from the pot, but instead, they grab at each other in a order to prevent one another from getting out. Most of us may feel as though we are stuck in a hole and there’s no way of climbing out.. Now this could all be because of the dragging down of others that probably diminished your self esteem and your fuel to your fire that kept your passion burning.

Now the analogy in human behavior is that members of your life or in your environment will attempt to ”pull down”, or ”hate on” – diminish the importance, of any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of envy, self-hate or competitiveness.
This would be based upon the idea that  the fact that they may see someone else getting themselves together or bettering themselves.. Instead of raising them up.. the thought process that they end up possessing would be ”If I can’t have it, neither can you”

 Simply put and to end this blog because I don’t like to ramble on.. It’s best that we try to uplift one another and lean on one another for strength rather than breaking each other down because in the end.. Two heads are better than one and one finger isn’t nearly as powerful as a fist.. 

”No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.”

-Charles Dickens  🤗

I know we can all out our hands up and testify that we’ve all been through a period in our lives where things do not go according to plan and we have to suddenly change something in our plan in order to get things running smoothly. 

I just had to run up, across a passage and down some stairs in order to catch a train. But this was all due to the change of platform at the station. Now can I be mad.. Nah not really. I enjoyed running.. Saved me the possibility of working out 😀  I just took that change in platform as a change of planning that’s all. Heck! It’s still taking me where I need to be so I’m not fussed. 

A change of platform in ones life doesn’t always mean it’s a bad thing. It’s just about the possible ‘train’/ opportunity that can take you to where you really need to be. 

The struggle of the snail

Well well well, whenever it starts to rain, in the UK, these little creatures called snails seem to pop up and appear out of nowhere. Now have you ever seen a snail move. It’s sooo slow ! Now if you pay attention.. The only reason the snail is moving is to get somewhere right. Just as everything that usually moves; its aim is to get somewhere. Now we all no a snail moves at less than 1 mph ( not scientifically proven, just my opinionated joke) but even though it is moving absolutely slow, it’s still going to get where it is going… Eventually ! 

So now, where is this leading to you might be wondering. We may all be in a position in our lives where we feel as though we aren’t moving at the same pace as others and I believe that even though this may be the case we all have our own lane that we’re travelling in, and trying to focus on others lane and what they’re doing may cause us to fall off or even crash and burn. Plus staying in your own lane, there’s no traffic and you can get to where you’re going in due time ! 

Of course I’ve been through the stage of my journey where I’ve looked at thought ‘hmm, theres other 19 year old making a lot of money and buying this and buying that.. It’s not fair’.. yadda yadda yadda right now, in my own life I’ve come to a conclusion that everybody has the possibility, ability and potential to succeed, it’s all just about having focus, confidence and persistence to push that passion into first gear in order to get it moving.. Keeping an eye on what you’re doing will allow you to improve your craft and steer you in the direction to motivate someone else to move.

Privacy

Im a person who I would say is quite private and will only let particular people know the things that I really want them to know and if I believe they will give me some form of support or . Which can be a good thing but also a bad thing as I’ve never been one of those people to tell out the whole of my business to people day in and day out. I’m still learning to not be so private with people around me because when I’d be going through some stuff it would literally be me, myself and I because I caused that for myself. But on the other hand, there’s the whole not wanting to seem as though everything is consistently going south in my life whenever I open up to someone and let them know how I’m actually doing rather than the false ‘I’m ok/alright’.. I’m still learning to be a bit more transparent about things in my life to others, but it’s either pride or even fear that stops me from putting that into fruition. 
Ok, ok. Sometimes I can even put it down to pure laziness and the lack of motivation to even want to speak sometimes but I know that opening up would do me a lot of good. 

Better out than in -Shrek 😀

Refresh.

HAPPY 1ST OF MARCH !!
It’s been a while I know I know, but I’ve got a sweet and always short thinking exercise for you guys, and all I want you to do is just think about my post in detail and just simply reflect. In times like this it’s quite hard to sit down, chill and actually reflect because of our busy lifestyles or just simply being glued to screens all day long 🙂

I recently posted a comment on my Facebook stating quite frankly that most things have an expiry date and this can also be applied to some relationships. I also stated that when it is actually evident that it’s time to throw away or put aside an old thing, there’s no use in keeping it around, it’s rendered useless..

I would suppose many people have friends and family that they wouldn’t want to ever think about throwing away, or distancing themselves away from someone they’re close to or have known for a very long time. If they’re not benefiting you in any way in terms of support, care, love. Checking you’re okay, simple things like that, they don’t need to be around. Okay now obviously that sounds quite harsh and quite unfair but it’s a bit like having that thing in the back of your throat dangling thing.. (The Uvula)..

Yeah that. It just sits there but what is its actual purpose. 

Maybe if it was cut out of the back of our throats then maybe it’s true purpose will be revealed, who knows. So quite simply put just think if the people closest to you are just like that thing in the back of our throats (Uvula) maybe you need to question their core effectiveness in your life.

Have a great evening.. Morning. Or whatever time of the day that you actually read his post, have a good one 😛 😉

3 months into 2016…

HAPPY 1ST OF MARCH !!

It’s been a while I know I know, but I’ve got a sweet and always short thinking exercise for you guys, and all I want you to do is just think about my post in detail and just simply reflect. In times like this it’s quite hard to sit down, chill and actually reflect because of our busy lifestyles or just simply being glued to screens all day long.

I recently posted a comment on my Facebook stating quite frankly that most things have an expiry date and this can also be applied to some relationships. I also stated that when it is actually evident that it’s time to throw away or put aside an old thing, there’s no use in keeping it around, it’s rendered useless..

I would suppose many people have friends and family that they wouldn’t want to ever think about throwing away, or distancing themselves away from someone they’re close to or have known for a very long time. If they’re not benefiting you in any way in terms of support, care, love. Checking you’re okay, simple things like that, they don’t need to be around. Okay now obviously that sounds quite harsh and quite unfair but it’s a bit like having that thing in the back of your throat dangling thing.. (The Uvula)..

Yeah that. It just sits there but what is its actual purpose.

Maybe if it was cut out of the back of our throats then maybe it’s true purpose will be revealed, who knows. So quite simply put just think if the people closest to you are just like that thing in the back of our throats (Uvula) maybe you need to question their core effectiveness in your life.

Have a great evening.. Morning. Or whatever time of the day that you actually read his post, have a good one ❤️

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